Love & Marriage
So, Ashley Madison. So much to say, so little reason to care. Seriously.
Penned 2 years ago.
It was 80°F in San Diego, CA and the sky was clear.
Over My Head by Fleetwood Mac was spinning on the ol' iTunes.
A friend and I were discussing the scandal over lunch, and it was interesting to me what each of us thought was the real reason for the outrage we are seeing. I maintain that it is the breach of privacy and security, and he believes it is the damage done, or potentially done, to reputation and marriages.
While I agree that his position has merit, I just don't believe we live in a society anymore that really cares about who you sleep with, how and why. Our current culture conditions us to expect instant gratification, with no consequences.
The stigmas that used to associated with promiscuity, divorce, infidelity, etc have been mostly eradicated. There was a time in this country, not that long ago, that a divorce, regardless of the reason, was crippling to your social standing.
I realize that this isn't neccesarily something to mourn. Many women were locked in destructive marriages because of this fact. My point is more to do with the chnage in attitude than the morality of any given position.
Revelations of infidelity or promiscuity were just as bad. Fast forward to the present, and it takes more time to order dinner at a 3 star restaurant than get a divorce. We are raising a generation of "let's just try it" husband and wives.
If it gets hard we can just quit. With no over arching, compelling reason to protect the marriage bond sites like Ashley Madison don't really seem to be that big of a deal.
Hell, 30 years ago, had we the technology we do today, this site would have never have been successful, not because we were purer and more innocent, but because we were more critical as a society.
I honestly don't know which is worse.
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